Comments on: If wishes were horses, beggars would ride http://raincityguide.com/2006/07/12/if-wishes-were-horses-beggars-would-ride/ Seattle's Leading Resource for Real Estate Information Sun, 08 Nov 2009 01:47:42 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Dual Agency — Because I couldn’t hold back (and Steve is gone) — The San Diego Home Blog http://raincityguide.com/2006/07/12/if-wishes-were-horses-beggars-would-ride/#comment-342064 Dual Agency — Because I couldn’t hold back (and Steve is gone) — The San Diego Home Blog Tue, 28 Jul 2009 16:06:16 +0000 http://raincityguide.com/2006/07/12/if-wishes-were-horses-beggars-would-ride/#comment-342064 [...] my opinion, knee-jerk. One of the biggest vocal opponents of dual agency, Ardell DellaLoggia, once said it best: “If” the beginning of every residential real estate transaction were the buyers and the [...] [...] my opinion, knee-jerk. One of the biggest vocal opponents of dual agency, Ardell DellaLoggia, once said it best: “If” the beginning of every residential real estate transaction were the buyers and the [...]

]]> By: The San Diego Home Blog » Blog Archive » An Uncivil War http://raincityguide.com/2006/07/12/if-wishes-were-horses-beggars-would-ride/#comment-42238 The San Diego Home Blog » Blog Archive » An Uncivil War Sun, 03 Dec 2006 17:16:42 +0000 http://raincityguide.com/2006/07/12/if-wishes-were-horses-beggars-would-ride/#comment-42238 [...] What many agents forget is that the parties are not the Blue and Gray on opposite ends of a battlefield, but are real people who have everything in common. You have a side that wants to buy and a side that wants to sell, and the agents’ roles are to bring them together through negotiation of a treaty that satisfies all involved. Ardell DellaLoggia spoke to this last summer and, while I suggested then that the negotiating table scene in her Norman Rockwell portrait was the stuff of fantasy, the underlying argument was dead on. [...] [...] What many agents forget is that the parties are not the Blue and Gray on opposite ends of a battlefield, but are real people who have everything in common. You have a side that wants to buy and a side that wants to sell, and the agents’ roles are to bring them together through negotiation of a treaty that satisfies all involved. Ardell DellaLoggia spoke to this last summer and, while I suggested then that the negotiating table scene in her Norman Rockwell portrait was the stuff of fantasy, the underlying argument was dead on. [...]

]]> By: Seattle’s Rain City Real Estate Guide » Good Folk and Old Fashioned Values http://raincityguide.com/2006/07/12/if-wishes-were-horses-beggars-would-ride/#comment-10504 Seattle’s Rain City Real Estate Guide » Good Folk and Old Fashioned Values Sat, 29 Jul 2006 16:09:35 +0000 http://raincityguide.com/2006/07/12/if-wishes-were-horses-beggars-would-ride/#comment-10504 [...] Good Folk and Old Fashioned Values July 29, 2006 Last night, my dream came true. [...] [...] Good Folk and Old Fashioned Values July 29, 2006 Last night, my dream came true. [...]

]]> By: The San Diego Home Blog » Blog Archive » Horses and Beggars and Tinkers - Oh My! http://raincityguide.com/2006/07/12/if-wishes-were-horses-beggars-would-ride/#comment-9965 The San Diego Home Blog » Blog Archive » Horses and Beggars and Tinkers - Oh My! Sat, 15 Jul 2006 16:08:43 +0000 http://raincityguide.com/2006/07/12/if-wishes-were-horses-beggars-would-ride/#comment-9965 [...] Props to Ardell at the Rain City Guide for another thought-provoking post, this one on the often contentious nature of the real estate transaction.  In her comments, she speculates that all would be better served if agents and their clients would sit down to dinner and a drink. While I find the concept utopian and impractical, the message is a good one. [...] [...] Props to Ardell at the Rain City Guide for another thought-provoking post, this one on the often contentious nature of the real estate transaction.  In her comments, she speculates that all would be better served if agents and their clients would sit down to dinner and a drink. While I find the concept utopian and impractical, the message is a good one. [...]

]]> By: ARDELL http://raincityguide.com/2006/07/12/if-wishes-were-horses-beggars-would-ride/#comment-9921 ARDELL Thu, 13 Jul 2006 18:29:05 +0000 http://raincityguide.com/2006/07/12/if-wishes-were-horses-beggars-would-ride/#comment-9921 Tim, The sad thing is that it is totally within our power to civilize the process. Today I have arranged for a buyer and seller to meet, with agent supervision, to review the home inspection results. Not to negotiate, but to clarify some points prior to negotiation. To do that you need all parties to be reasonable and respectful of each other's interests, including the agent on the other side. I know Russ says that what I do as a single agent, vs. the industry at large, is of no consequence particularly with regard to buyer agent fees. But I still believe we change the world everytime we promote change...albeit in very small doses. Tim,

The sad thing is that it is totally within our power to civilize the process. Today I have arranged for a buyer and seller to meet, with agent supervision, to review the home inspection results. Not to negotiate, but to clarify some points prior to negotiation. To do that you need all parties to be reasonable and respectful of each other’s interests, including the agent on the other side.

I know Russ says that what I do as a single agent, vs. the industry at large, is of no consequence particularly with regard to buyer agent fees. But I still believe we change the world everytime we promote change…albeit in very small doses.

]]> By: Chief Errand Boy http://raincityguide.com/2006/07/12/if-wishes-were-horses-beggars-would-ride/#comment-9920 Chief Errand Boy Thu, 13 Jul 2006 15:27:31 +0000 http://raincityguide.com/2006/07/12/if-wishes-were-horses-beggars-would-ride/#comment-9920 sorry bad link. Try this: <a href="http://theclosingtable.blogspot.com/2006/04/waiter-rule-rudeness-in-workplace.html" rel="nofollow">The Waiter Rule</a> sorry bad link.

Try this:

The Waiter Rule

]]> By: Chief Errand Boy http://raincityguide.com/2006/07/12/if-wishes-were-horses-beggars-would-ride/#comment-9919 Chief Errand Boy Thu, 13 Jul 2006 15:22:21 +0000 http://raincityguide.com/2006/07/12/if-wishes-were-horses-beggars-would-ride/#comment-9919 Ardell- I think I'm going to suggest a plaque in our office with your quote and credits to you. I vote for the best post of the year with the potential for greatest impact, hands down. The idea of people getting together, even over a cup of coffee, to discuss the parties aspirations or transaction points could help to put deals in a different light and more importantly, salvage a shaky transaction on the cusp of faliure. Too often, a described apple gets turned into an orange during a deal, controlling parties eager for the upper hand stifle progress and ego's that don't allow a perfectly normal transaction to blossom on it's own. I'm glad that you are starting to see things more civil because nothing is more discouraging as an escrow agent (and I'm sure all escrow offices staff can relate) than to listen to bickering between parties and agents during escrow, only to be caught in the middle thinking, "gosh, these people never intended for this to happen or this is not what they said at all." We had a $900,000 dollar sale implode about three weeks ago for petty things that were blown way out of proportion, in my opinion. It's too bad these parties couldn't meet and work it out as you suggest. Darn shame to have all the parties start over again, never mind the potential for actually losing the customer and the commissions earned on a deal. People should take to heart the <a>The Waiter Rule</a><a> held by CEO's testing the behavior of Corporate Officer job applicants. The way you treat others in a position of power tells a lot about your character.</a> Ardell-

I think I’m going to suggest a plaque in our office with your quote and credits to you. I vote for the best post of the year with the potential for greatest impact, hands down.

The idea of people getting together, even over a cup of coffee, to discuss the parties aspirations or transaction points could help to put deals in a different light and more importantly, salvage a shaky transaction on the cusp of faliure. Too often, a described apple gets turned into an orange during a deal, controlling parties eager for the upper hand stifle progress and ego’s that don’t allow a perfectly normal transaction to blossom on it’s own.

I’m glad that you are starting to see things more civil because nothing is more discouraging as an escrow agent (and I’m sure all escrow offices staff can relate) than to listen to bickering between parties and agents during escrow, only to be caught in the middle thinking, “gosh, these people never intended for this to happen or this is not what they said at all.”

We had a $900,000 dollar sale implode about three weeks ago for petty things that were blown way out of proportion, in my opinion. It’s too bad these parties couldn’t meet and work it out as you suggest. Darn shame to have all the parties start over again, never mind the potential for actually losing the customer and the commissions earned on a deal.

People should take to heart the The Waiter Rule held by CEO’s testing the behavior of Corporate Officer job applicants. The way you treat others in a position of power tells a lot about your character.

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